Your words are MAGICAL, exactly like your are, my friend!!! 🤗💙🤗

You're giving me ideas! I should probably think of writing a piece about the difference between our traumas' scars (what you're beautifually describing here) and character flaws!

I am aware there is a tendency that encourages people to embrace their character flaws, consider them as part of their identity; consequently implying that there is nothing to do about them!

I have a big problem with this idea given that I'm a huge believer our spirit is flawless and so was the original being (servant leader) character, whose main attributes are "integrity", "abundance mentality", and "emotional maturity", before any conditioning took place! Flawless character includes being messy, silly and free like a child! It also means making mistakes (like we all do) but being so self-aware that we quickly and sincerely apologize for our shortcomings! It means having no room for “resentment”, “jealousy”, “envy”, “lack of empathy”, “entitlement”, “exploitative tendency”, “lack of self-respect and boundaries”, “keeping secrets”, “hiding”, “withdrawing”, “numbing”, “prejudices”, “toxic humor”, “complaining”, “criticizing” — you name it!

It seems to me that personality is nothing but the combination of the character and the limiting beliefs / disorted centers that replaced the original core part aka " the universal principles", as a by-product of the life-time of conditoning, and that it's important to differenciate between recognizing those character flaws for what they are while being self-compassionate before starting the inner work and embracing them as part of our identity (that's a dangerous belief as far as I'm concerned).