You said it yourself, my friend! It seems to me that it is confusing BECAUSE of how we are brought up! Because our parent were also conditioned, diving into life with their heavy emotional baggage and mental distorted patterns, and anything but ready to raise kids.
If you pay close attention to my writings, you'll notice that ALL aim at one thing: awakening the spirit of the kind souls and getting them to train their critical thinking skills: the only effective way to re-write their subconscious program fueled by FEAR so that to reverse the imbalanced world.
And it all starts with the household, given our subconscious program is written from before birth to 6.