My adorable friend, a person who is truly concerned for you and wellbeing would NEVER advise something you despise! It's a big RED FLAG to spot! I have those family members, too! Some individuals love to portray themselves as "worried" for you and talk about it to everybody to sell their false persona and protect their "good person" image at your expense! It has a name: it's called "smear compaign". Don't be fooled by their game.