I used to be so familiar with the pattern and feel you! What a blessing to figure the trap out and do our homework! 💙

We may still dislike the behavior; even pity the person if they reach the level of an antagonist/abuser but would never get offended, being armed with the knowledge it’s their shit not ours!

Appealingly, unlike the former group of imbalanced intrinsically good folks who could be distracted or anxious and would care about not hurting us, the latter one would not get access to my compassion and my wishes of inner peace! 🕊