I came to realize that my empathy, as it goes for trust and giving the benefit of the doubt, is sacred and needs to be earned. Some difficult ot toxic or what a brilliant therapist labels C.R.A.V.E.D (C for Conflict, R for Rigid, A for Antogonist, V for Vulnerable/Victim/Vindictive, E for Entitlement, and D for Dysregulated) merely deserve pity and wishing them peace!