How kind of you, my friend! It used to be a burden, indeed, when I was not aware of my "savior" pattern which I discovered the existence with my dysfunctional household shocking reality almost a year ago. Working on its 3 layers was far more challenging than destroying my numerous limiting beliefs!

The first belief-level I destroyed — and my innocence with it — was, “All mortal beings are inherently good; thus, are worthy of being saved”.

The second one was way harder to indeed understand and accept, “Toxic inherently good people don’t deserve my investment”.

The final migration is “Even non-toxic inherently good people wouldn’t earn a chance unless they asked explicitly or implicitly for some guidance”. Free-will is the keyword!

I suspect that what makes giving up on this pattern hard is the noble purpose. Unlike the limiting beliefs that we place as bad, being a savior is intrinsically good.

The truth is that it can only be harmful: first to the relationship, given their perception would be, "Something is fundamentally wrong about me; that's why Myriam wants to fix me".

Second, to me, since I am disrespecting myself in a way by offering my time and energy to an already lost cause.

So, now the burden transformed into responsibility. No matter the how, the most important detail is to understand that doing one's part even through merely being a responsible consumer should not be a choice; rather the obvious philosophy of life! That's why I appreciate who you are so much!