Boy! Full-body goosebumps, my friend! I'm so familiar with those gaslighting and abusive remarks through in our direction on the name of "love"! Pathetic, frankly, and so very common! I firmly believe abusers exist in all families; the extended if not the direct one! It's the humanity's most dangerous cancer, in all likelihood... That's why self-awareness, critical thinking and tons of psychological education are our best allies, it seems to me!