I did and found out it was linked to their ability to simply “be”!

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Toxic friends can merely “do” for you. A healthy friendship is all about “being”.

If you are a new reader, welcome on board, and thank you for deciding to stop by. If you are a returning one, I want you to know how grateful I am for your trust and loyalty!

I am aware some of you might be tempted to ask whether all toxic friends are dark, manipulators, or simply what I like to call character-disturbed individuals who lost their soul battle and turned evil.

There are two kinds of toxic people

Toxicity can either come from an abusive & manipulative person or an emotionally imbalanced…


I was tempted to name her Miracle but then opted for Mimi

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I feel fortunate for loving animals and need to admit to you it hasn’t always been the case. I never hated them or stayed careless whenever I was witnessing some cruel behavior toward them. But, I can’t say I had a particular connection with those beautiful living creatures!

Up to two years ago, I was trapped. I was the by-product of a lifetime of conditioning. I was diving into life with numerous traumas, emotional scars, and unprocessed feelings.

Up to two years ago, I was living 95 to 97% of my day on auto-pilot from a program I never wrote…


I was stupid and thought the time has come to apologize to the homosexual community.

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There is one grand lie — that we are limited. The only limits we have are the limits we believe. ~ Wayne Dyer

Today, I decided to explore one of the uncomfortable topics about which to talk. Like discrimination and different kinds of stigmatization, discussing homophobia takes tons of openness! I am taking the risk nonetheless!

Let’s start from the beginning, shall we?

How is homophobia created? Like any other limiting belief, it starts at the household. Interestingly, in Christianity, Judaism, and Islam, homosexuality has been considered sinful — at least for the conservative groups.

More to the point, if…


The little girl in the park needed to be “seen”…

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“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” ~ Peggy O’Mara

I went to my favorite park. When I finished my walk, I found a cozy place in front of the lake where I can watch the gorgeous ducks and read my book.


“Black Lives Matter” Movement is probably not enough.

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Like the Aryan conquerors of India, white Europeans in the Americas wanted to be seen not only as economically successful but also as pious, just and objective. Religious and scientific myths were pressed into service to justify this division. Theologians argued that Africans descend from Ham, son of Noah, saddled by his father with a curse that his offspring would be slaves. Biologists argued that blacks are less intelligent than whites and their moral sense less developed. Doctors alleged that blacks live in filth and spread diseases — in other words, they are source of pollution. These myths struck a…


Hint: It had everything to do with the vibe!

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Back in 2017, my boyfriend at the time and I decided to meet for the very first time in Amsterdam. I flew from Tunisia and him from the US.

He arrived few hours before me and had some time to check the apartment and rent a car. He took care of booking everything, which I adored given that trip planning tasks are not my strength!

My next one will be a solo trip so that I won’t have any excuse anymore.

He was waiting for me at the airport. It wasn’t awkward — at least it was my impression and…


Mama Bear will always have your back!

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It was probably 5 am. My kitten and I were peacefully sleeping and dreaming while hugging each other.

Suddenly, we heard many dogs barking and an exaggerated whine of one of them. I jumped out of bed in the direction of the window to locate them.

Then, without even wearing any coat, I ran to rescue the victim. I didn’t prepare any plan. I was frustrated with the aggression and the only thing my mind could do at that moment was to produce Adrenaline to fight!

Because I was running and cursing, I think that it was enough to be…


It’s about witnessing humankind’s cruelty towards an innocent dog…

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Last Monday was my Daddy’s 63rd birthday. I thought of pleasing him with a surprise visit. I ordered a homemade “caramel & chocolate” cheesecake.

My friend — the baker — advised I should get it the same day. An appointment has been made at 8 am. On my way, I saw something lying on the street. When I was close enough, I was horrified by discovering it was a dog.

I stopped my car and ran to check in on him/her — it turned out to be a “her”. She was almost motionless. …


And asking for favors along with conflicts have the power to prove whether the trust is real or not

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Last weekend, I needed a favor. I talked about it to close friends I like to call “soul” mates who are fully aware of my circumstances and the chaos I have been going through starting in the middle of 2020.

One of them didn’t think twice and proceeded with executing my request the second I asked for it. This is called trust. She knows deep inside that if I had even 1% of doubt that it could impact her negatively, I would have never asked in the first place.

She has been listening carefully. She has been paying attention to…


Although the rules are different for pets, the fulfillment is the same!

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“I believe the greatest compliment in the world is trust. “— Jennifer McAlister

Dear reader, if you are anything like me, you may have an idea about the delight to which I’m referring. Also, Jennifer’s wisdom above is likely to give you chills and draw a peaceful smile on your face. In any case, know that I am honored by your decision to stop by!

For those of you who followed my previous shared episodes with my beloved kitten Mimi, you know what witnessing our relationship growth means to me. …

Myriam Ben Salem

Writing about things in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, and epigenetics. Common denominator? The subconscious program!

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