While trustworthiness is an impression, trust is built.

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“Forgiveness is instant and unearned, but trust must be earned.” — Rick Warren

If you are a new reader, welcome on board, and thank you for deciding to stop by. If you are a returning one, I want you to know how grateful I am for your trust and loyalty!

This being said, it seems to me there is a confusion around the word trust, you know that beautiful foundation for building healthy relationships. Did I already share with you a healthy relationship was a nurturing exchange in both directions? Well, now it’s done! 😁

What if we try to explore, together, the difference introduced in the title? Sounds like a plan, right? I guess you wouldn’t have clicked on the link if you weren’t interested in the first place, silly me! …


It has nothing to do with the synergy between your left and right brains.

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Those who have the privilege to know have the duty to act. ~ Albert Einstein

If you are a new reader, welcome on board, and thank you for deciding to stop by. If you are a returning one, I want you to know how grateful I am for your trust and loyalty!

I have great respect for Albert Einstein. Thus, I needed to listen to his recommendation and share my thoughts about creativity with you. It seems to me many people tend to believe all creative work is “original”.

Creativity as a learning by-product

The first kind of creativity is purely intellectual. In other words, it entirely depends on the left brain. This type is merely the by-product of all that we have learned so far. In other words, the outcome of our curiosity and highly effective memory. …


I did and found out it was linked to their ability to simply “be”!

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Toxic friends can merely “do” for you. A healthy friendship is all about “being”.

If you are a new reader, welcome on board, and thank you for deciding to stop by. If you are a returning one, I want you to know how grateful I am for your trust and loyalty!

I am aware some of you might be tempted to ask whether all toxic friends are dark, manipulators, or simply what I like to call character-disturbed individuals who lost their soul battle and turned evil.

There are two kinds of toxic people

Toxicity can either come from an abusive & manipulative person or an emotionally imbalanced human being who is diving into life with a package of numerous emotional scars, mental patterns, and unprocessed feelings. …


SELECTED STORIES ON ILLUMINATION-CURATED

Selected stories by Myriam Ben Salem

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It goes without saying this story would have had no chance to see the light without the continuous creative mind of Dr Mehmet Yildiz, as well as the remarkable commitment of his team of talented and generous editors!

If you are a new reader, welcome onboard and thank you for deciding to stop by. If you are a returning one, I want you to know how grateful I am for your trust and loyalty!

Servant Leaders and the Art of Healthy Communication

#Self Awareness #Self #Servant Leadership #Self Improvement #Psychology

When being loyal to the principles, servant leaders fight the lack of them without demeaning people. They only talk about the manifestations of the distortion. …


What I wish I knew About My Mind a Long Time Ago.

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“Know that in your deeper mind are infinite intelligence and infinite power.” — Joseph Murphy

Reading the “7 habits” was life-changing for me and the starting point of my transformation after having tried the fake growth journey fueled by the positive affirmations. They merely added a new layer numbing the root causes of my imbalance. Should you be interested, I explored the topic in detail here:

There is an important detail that I need to mention. I know many people who read this same book, who were mind-blown and thought, sincerely, that it would change their existence. …


Sometimes ignorance is the most effective way to disable abusers.

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If there is something uncomfortable to communicate, we must be tasteful in our delivery. We must not dignify them with violence or toxic humor. We leave that to trolls. Instead, we simply bypass their ignorance with silence… let them live with their own hatred instead of indulging their need for conflict. ~ Aaron Towle

Those lines said by a fellow writer and good friend of mine are, without any doubt, some rare gems of wisdom. If I may add my 2%, I would say servant leaders wouldn’t require the affirmative form “must”. It is one of the words they erased from their dictionary. …


If you can spot at least 6 of them, don’t let them go.

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They don’t personalize things

More frequently than you may want to believe, being easily offended is the subsequent expression of self-centeredness because it is the presumption that everything revolves around oneself.

Let’s say you are dating a secure person and had a discussion for which they needed some feedback, and that you forgot about it. They are unlikely to react to it since your actions or lack of them do not threaten their sense of self.

Interestingly, they may get excited and crave feedback or a call from you. But, if you don’t, it won’t disempower them for a simple reason: your behavior does not trigger any emotional injury resulting in putting them in an exceedingly protective state of mind. …


The little girl in the park needed to be “seen”…

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“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” ~ Peggy O’Mara

I went to my favorite park. When I finished my walk, I found a cozy place in front of the lake where I can watch the gorgeous ducks and read my book.

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From the author’s album

There were two kids, their parents and grandma playing not far from me. The boy was younger and displaying more confidence and freedom of action than his old sister who was almost silent.

I could feel her resentment and see her desperate and clumsy trials to prove her existence. My heart was bleeding. …


I was stupid and thought the time has come to apologize to the homosexual community.

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There is one grand lie — that we are limited. The only limits we have are the limits we believe. ~ Wayne Dyer

Today, I decided to explore one of the uncomfortable topics about which to talk. Like discrimination and different kinds of stigmatization, discussing homophobia takes tons of openness! I am taking the risk nonetheless!

Let’s start from the beginning, shall we?

How is homophobia created? Like any other limiting belief, it starts at the household. Interestingly, in Christianity, Judaism, and Islam, homosexuality has been considered sinful — at least for the conservative groups.

More to the point, if you were raised in a religious family system, chances are high you were vehiculated the message by your caregivers, and have built a biased algorithm around homosexual communities in your subconscious program. …


People will never forget how you made them feel!

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“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” — The 14th Dalai Lama

Stockholm Central Station

I was lost in Stockholm Central Station in the middle of the renovation work last year. It was my fifth visit to the beautiful capital of Sweden. Still, it didn’t seem to help that much.

It was a busy weekday. People were in a rush, and I was hopelessly looking for some clear indications. I couldn’t even see the information desk or someone from the staff whom I could ask.

Suddenly, I sensed a hand on my shoulder. I turned around to find a gorgeous young lady with a charming smile. …

About

Myriam Ben Salem

Writing about things in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, and epigenetics. Common denominator? The subconscious program!

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