Could humility be the answer?

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“Be realistic: Plan for a miracle.” — Osho Rajneesh

For those of you who are honoring me by stopping by for the first time, I want to express my deepest gratitude! This being said, you might want to know that I am a survivor.

Back in September 2018, and after having been harshly abused by a malignant narcissist, I was about to end my life.

I was saved at the last moment by the grace of my pure love divinity through an out-of-body experience.

It was as if the servant leader in me dissociated to make me see all the…


The “Black Lives Matter” Movement is probably not enough.

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Like the Aryan conquerors of India, white Europeans in the Americas wanted to be seen not only as economically successful but also as pious, just and objective. Religious and scientific myths were pressed into service to justify this division. Theologians argued that Africans descend from Ham, son of Noah, saddled by his father with a curse that his offspring would be slaves. Biologists argued that blacks are less intelligent than whites and their moral sense less developed. Doctors alleged that blacks live in filth and spread diseases — in other words, they are source of pollution. These myths struck a…


I did and found out it was linked to their ability to simply “be”!

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Toxic friends can merely “do” for you. A healthy friendship is all about “being”.

If you are a new reader, welcome on board, and thank you for deciding to stop by. If you are a returning one, I want you to know how grateful I am for your trust and loyalty!

I am aware some of you might be tempted to ask whether all toxic friends are dark, manipulators, or simply what I like to call character-disturbed individuals who lost their soul battle and turned evil.

There are two kinds of toxic people

Toxicity can either come from an abusive & manipulative person or an emotionally imbalanced…


I was tempted to name her Miracle but then opted for Mimi

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I feel fortunate for loving animals and need to admit to you it hasn’t always been the case. I never hated them or stayed careless whenever I was witnessing some cruel behavior toward them. But, I can’t say I had a particular connection with those beautiful living creatures!

Up to two years ago, I was trapped. I was the by-product of a lifetime of conditioning. I was diving into life with numerous traumas, emotional scars, and unprocessed feelings.

Up to two years ago, I was living 95 to 97% of my day on auto-pilot from a program I never wrote…


This is my personal definition of critical thinking fueled by my life philosophy

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It seems to me there is a fine line between thinking out of the box and critical thinking.

The former means we choose not to necessarily fit in and go with the social standards flow. That is to challenge the status quo.

Let’s imagine I’m 45, single with no kids but with a very ‘successful’ career — the only thing making my parents proud of me since they don’t really care, like most imbalanced and irresponsible caregivers, about who I am as a person.

All that matters are my achievements and the superficial image vehiculated to the world.

Let’s also…


Some adoptive parents might save you from a traumatic childhood!

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It’s not that important to give birth to kids. Many adults are driven by selfishness and their numerous insecurities in their decision, instead of a genuine will to raise balanced future adults who would give back to the world:

  • They want to feel the Oxytocin effect.
  • They can’t bear with their environment’s pressure.
  • They want to look normal to the world while hiding their true colors. It goes beyond this need when it comes to some mental disorders. For narcissists, their children are a source of narcissistic supply that they need to survive. Kids are merely their extension with no…


Even when your conscious mind tries to convince you of the opposite!

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Acknowlegment and honesty are keywords to break free from your mental prison, and I know how uncomfortable it could be!

Are you interested in discovering the direct result?

  • For individuals who find themselves in the self-love arena more frequently than in the unhealthy ego sphere: inability to be fully authentic; that is having one version with everybody in every context.
  • For the inherently good folks who are still diving into life with an extremely unfriendly subconscious program and who are oblivious to it, being judgemental more frequently than they are willing to admit it to themselves.
From QPark YouTube channel


No matter what your self-bully might tell you, your true essence didn’t go anywhere. All you have to do is to find it!

We won over 100 million sperm. Our inner power has only been taken by the grownups’ conditioning, making us look for some external elements to feel better about ourselves.

And guess what? We can always reconnect with that winner in us who doesn’t have to prove anything to anyone after cleaning the dust.

Taking one’s responsibility to change what we were not responsible for creating in the first place — our subconscious program — is probably the highest level of strength and wisdom.

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Then, hopefully, someone somewhere in the world would see the potential and take a chance on us…


Here is what you need to ask yourself: is my purpose self-serving or does it go beyond me?

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I believe in a meaningful life and its direct contribution to our satisfaction! It’s part of our human nature and one of our four dimensions — To live (Body), to love (Heart), to learn (Mind), and to leave a principled legacy (Spirit).

We all crave leaving our blueprint deep inside even when we can’t put it into words. Nonetheless, we rarely take a chance on ourselves.

Our lifetime of conditioning discriminated against our intrinsic value. Our caregivers asked us to fit in and prove our worth, daily, through aligning with the status quo.

Consequently and as a natural result, most…

Myriam Ben Salem🦋

Writing about things in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, and epigenetics. Common denominator? The subconscious program!

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